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The Awakened Dad

Talking with Brent Herd, founder of The Awakened Dad

Brent Herd
Hi
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Ben Trenda
Brent, welcome to Goodtalk! You and I go back 12 years now, and I've always known you to be a solid guy. But when I heard about the awakened dad, it took my respect for you to a whole new level
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Ben Trenda
I think you've touched on something a lot of men can identify with. Can you share a little about when you first started thinking about the problem that you want to solve with this?
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Brent Herd
Hey Ben - thanks for this and man I appreciate the kind words.
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Brent Herd
This has always been something that has been near and dear to my heart. From as long as I can remember I have always wanted to help take care of the kids - as many of them as I could and it wasn't until recently that I realized the best way to give as many kids as possible the best chance to live their best life is by helping to teach Dad's from my experiences what deep connection can do for us all...
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Ben Trenda
I love that idea
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Ben Trenda
And I know I've seen research that correlates lack of a strong father figure to a lot of social problems like crime, poverty, drug use etc
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Brent Herd
This is very true, but speaking of research it has also been shown that when Fathers connect more deeply with their children they have more blood flow to their frontal cortex that in turn allows Dad's to be more creative, more innovative and more productive. So at the end of the day when Dad's are deeply connected to their kids they end up being more productive, innovative and creative in whatever it is they do - and usually it's their work. This is what the Awakened Dad will be helping Dad's to understand and giving them tools to create the connection that in the end can help everyone.
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Ben Trenda
That's fascinating-- also somewhat ironic that spending more time with one's kids could help a father be better at his job
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Ben Trenda
Were you aware of this research when you were working like a dog at Twitter and other tech/media co's?
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Brent Herd
Had no idea and at the time was only concerned about making that dollar. It wasn't until I started having kids that I began to shift myself. I have since learned that our kids come to us to help us grow spiritually. The problem is that most of us men allow our egos to drive the ship as it relates to parenting. What I mean by this is that we have these egoic plans for our kids - meaning we want our kids to be the best this or that and the truth is that we want these things for us - not for them and so this is how parenting has gotten so screwed up - if we were able to truly learn from our children it can be life changing - like it was for me.
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Ben Trenda
That's really insightful, and I think it's easier to see these behaviors in others than in ourselves
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Ben Trenda
So were you surprised by the reaction you got when you announced you were going to start working on The Awakened Dad?
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Brent Herd
It was completely overwhelming as well as eye opening to how many of us are suffering from this. My belief is that we are all suffering from speed - meaning this pace that we all are moving at is simply unsustainable and this movement will help serve this community.
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Ben Trenda
I've definitely had periods of unsustainable speed myself. It's hard when you're in the middle of that to see a clear path to being more sustainable
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Question from Willis R.
What is the Awakened Dad?
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